Today you’ll be watching for examples of simultaneous incongruence in your family members and/or co-workers. This task will require your visual and auditory acuity. A person who is displaying simultaneous incongruity might say, “Yes, I’d love to go to the movies,” while shaking their head no. Write down what people say and do when they [...]

As you participate in conversations today, notice deletions in your language and the language of others. For example, “I’m angry.” Response might be, “About what specifically?” Write down the deletions in your expressions as well as those communicated by others. If you did not respond to these deletions, how could you have responded to facilitate [...]

Today notice the physical anchors that you have in place in your work environment. Does the cartoon on your desk make you smile? Does the chair where you normally sit elicit a positive state for you? How can you enhance (or change) physical anchors so that your work day is as pleasant and as productive [...]

Eliciting states from others is a fine art that can be accom-plished in several ways. The first requirement, however, is that you, yourself, have the ability to access a variety of states and maintain them. To practice, access the following states fully while standing before a full length mirror: fun, confidence, peacefulness, excitement, joy, and [...]

While engaging in conversation with a friend, family member, or co-worker, notice whether or not you are matching their body posture. How is the interaction going? Now adjust your body posture to match or mismatch, as appropriate. What happens? How is the interaction affected? How is your internal experience affected?
Do this task several times today [...]

Self tasking -
-How can you challenge yourself today to grow in the area of rapport?
-Excerpted from the “Unconscious Competence Calendar“

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Kinesthetic - While taking a shower, pause for a moment to notice how the water feels against your body. Note temperature, water pressure, whether the spray is sharp or gentle, and how the water feels as it rolls off your body. Notice if these feelings are different on various parts of your body; e.g., back, [...]