I was standing in the lobby outside of one of the trainings here in the Colorado mountains last week chatting with an executive from Hilton Hotels. Like many people her acquaintance with NLP was based on an exposure to Tony Robbins.
She commented several times that the main point Tony “taught” was to come back to his next program. “It’s a lot of pomp and circumstance and it’s very expensive and at the end of it you’re supposed to come back for more.”
Now I take second place to no one in saluting Tony for doing more to popularize NLP than perhaps anyone. An unfortunate result is that a lot of people think that NLP is “just that stuff Robbins does.”
As I explained to her, what Tony has done is an excellent job of using NLP to develop himself into one of the best motivational speakers around.
A motivational speaker’s job is to get you motivated. This is not the same as teaching you how to motivate yourself, which learning a little NLP can do for you. There’s a key difference between experiencing a motivational speaker and learning to motivate yourself.
It’s the difference between having it done for you – or to you – and learning to do it yourself. The first is sometimes easier, and in places more appropriate. I stopped doing my own car maintenance about 20 years ago. Cars became too complex to service without a lot of specialized tools and knowledge.
Motivating yourself is a lot more difficult to delegate, and it’s rather hard to get consistent results. It is actually easy to learn to motivate yourself, much easier than learning to maintain a modern automobile.
First, you already know yourself pretty well. You know what you like and what you don’t, and that’s where motivation starts. With a moment’s thought you can think of several things you truly want to accomplish.
One way to proceed is putting that thing you want to be consistently motivated to accomplish in the same frame, context, or place that you put things you already do consistently, almost automatically and with satisfaction.
In NLP shorthand I just described several submodality shifts you can make to give yourself motivation for any task that you truly want to accomplish.
Map out the submodalities of something you do consistently, easily, almost automatically without much effort and with satisfaction at the result. Then simply map the thing you want to be motivated to do into the same submodalities. (Hint: location is usually a prime driver)
Another popular NLP submodality tool you can use is the Swish Pattern. Naturally you’ll find a full description and instructions in our Practitioner at Home DVD Program, “The NLP Portable Practitioner Training.” You can also find it in the book “Heart of the Mind”
Both of these are simple enough that a competent NLP Practitioner could teach you both in an hour or so. Getting some private coaching can be a very effective way to rapidly access and experience for yourself the benefit of NLP in your life.
However you choose to proceed, you do actually have to take action. Like any tool, you have to use it to get a result.