Life Skills: Pacing and Leading, The Power Move In Conversational Rapport-Building. Many behaviors can be paced, or mirrored. These NLP Rapport skills are pretty easy to learn, and you can practice them anytime and anywhere that you can observe someone. They are tools you can use to create better connections and have greater influence. These […]
Emotional intelligence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can train.
Using NLP tools like anchoring, perceptual positions, and precision language, you can build EQ from the ground up.
Learn how to shift from reacting to responding—and develop emotional skills that transform your relationships, leadership, and self-awareness.
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Have you ever felt an emotion come out of nowhere—a wave of anxiety, a flash of anger, or a moment of motivation—and wondered why it hit so hard? The answer might lie in how your brain represents that experience. It’s not just the thought itself, but how that thought shows up in your mind. That’s
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The phrase “I don’t know” often signifies a mental block, leading to learned helplessness.
Instead, reframing the question to “How would you find out?” encourages active problem-solving and taps into existing resources.
This approach fosters autonomy and enables better strategic thinking in coaching, team settings, and personal self-coaching.
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If you’ve ever watched someone do something brilliantly and thought, “How do they make it look so easy?” — you’re not alone. Whether it’s a leader who commands the room, a coach who inspires breakthroughs, or a parent who handles chaos with calm, there’s often a method behind their magic. In NLP, we call that
Want to Be Great at Anything? Learn to Model Excellence With NLP Read More »
Let’s bust a myth real quick. You don’t need to be a coach, therapist, or hypnotist to use NLP.You don’t need a certification.You don’t need to change careers.And no—you definitely don’t need to “fix” anyone. Because NLP isn’t just for the stage or the Zoom room. It’s for the dinner table.The boardroom.The moment you’re staring
NLP Isn’t Just for Coaches: How to Use It at Home, at Work, and When Life Gets Messy Read More »
We all run our lives based on internal maps—mental models of how things work. Some maps are solid. Others? Outdated, inaccurate, or based on assumptions we haven’t checked in years. The problem isn’t just that our maps are incomplete—it’s that we don’t realize it. That gap between perception and reality? It’s where people get blindsided.
Why Sensory Acuity Might Be the Most Underrated Skill in NLP Read More »
Rebuilding After the Fire: How NLP Helped Us Survive and Thrive On September 7, 2024, we lost everything. Our home, our belongings—everything we had ever owned except for what fit into a small bag. We escaped with our lives, our pets, three t-shirts, and a pair of jeans. In the days and weeks that followed,
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NLP Triggering and Anchoring – Firing Together Today the words and experience of triggering are all over the media. It’s almost always reported as a negative experience. There are calls to forbid certain behaviors because they ‘trigger’ some people. Triggering is just one part of a stimulus-response loop that was modeled in the early days
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Dear Friends, We all want an easy way out—whether it’s a quick fix for our health, a shortcut to success, or a hack to get through the hard stuff. It’s our human nature. Spoiler alert: the “easy out” doesn’t exist, especially when living a long and healthy life. In an article in the NY Times,
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Jeb Arcement taught science at a junior high school in Louisiana. The students at Jeb’s school were so tough that, in some years, the school lost a third of its teachers. Some new teachers didn’t even make it to Christmas. They’d get a new principal every 1-3 years. “It was a very toxic situation, to
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