Emotional intelligence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can train.
Using NLP tools like anchoring, perceptual positions, and precision language, you can build EQ from the ground up.
Learn how to shift from reacting to responding—and develop emotional skills that transform your relationships, leadership, and self-awareness.
Have you ever felt an emotion come out of nowhere—a wave of anxiety, a flash of anger, or a moment of motivation—and wondered why it hit so hard? The answer might lie in how your brain represents that experience. It’s not just the thought itself, but how that thought shows up in your mind. That’s where submodalities come in. And once you understand how they work, you can use them to shift your emotional state—quickly,
The phrase “I don’t know” often signifies a mental block, leading to learned helplessness.
Instead, reframing the question to “How would you find out?” encourages active problem-solving and taps into existing resources.
This approach fosters autonomy and enables better strategic thinking in coaching, team settings, and personal self-coaching.
Let’s bust a myth real quick. You don’t need to be a coach, therapist, or hypnotist to use NLP.You don’t need a certification.You don’t need to change careers.And no—you definitely don’t need to “fix” anyone. Because NLP isn’t just for the stage or the Zoom room. It’s for the dinner table.The boardroom.The moment you’re staring at your to-do list and can’t find the will to move. That’s when NLP really shines. NLP Is Mental Gear
We all run our lives based on internal maps—mental models of how things work. Some maps are solid. Others? Outdated, inaccurate, or based on assumptions we haven’t checked in years. The problem isn’t just that our maps are incomplete—it’s that we don’t realize it. That gap between perception and reality? It’s where people get blindsided. When Familiarity Becomes a Blind Spot Ever driven a familiar route and missed a stop sign? Not because you weren’t
Dear Friends, We all want an easy way out—whether it’s a quick fix for our health, a shortcut to success, or a hack to get through the hard stuff. It’s our human nature. Spoiler alert: the “easy out” doesn’t exist, especially when living a long and healthy life. In an article in the NY Times, an author wrote that the key to longevity is boring: “Research has long shown that health and longevity come down
Jeb Arcement taught science at a junior high school in Louisiana. The students at Jeb’s school were so tough that, in some years, the school lost a third of its teachers. Some new teachers didn’t even make it to Christmas. They’d get a new principal every 1-3 years. “It was a very toxic situation, to say the least.” “When I started teaching,” Jeb shared, “The kids were running my classroom. It was just awful.” Early
In today’s fast-paced world, it’s no wonder that many of us find ourselves feeling overwhelmed by the constant demands on our time and energy. Whether it’s the pressure of tight deadlines at work, the weight of financial responsibilities, or the never-ending list of family obligations, stress seems to be an unavoidable part of daily life. It’s easy to feel like you’re running on empty, struggling to stay positive as the challenges keep piling up. But
Atomic Habits or Big Life-Affirming Goals? Why not both? A couple of different approaches have proven effective in achieving goals, and motivation is essential to all of them. One approach is the Tiny Little Habits approach, popularized in the “Atomic Habits” book. This method involves adding one little tiny habit at a time. Over time, you will achieve some pretty substantial differences in your life. The other way is to choose a significant goal
This article is about a special kind of practice that will give you more confidence in social situations because you’ll know that what you’re doing is better than what you used to do. Enjoy! Tom Dotz This article covers a simple technique that will work wonders for you. In fact, with this method, you can improve in many kinds of activities, not just social ones. First, an old story. A guy visiting New York City