One of my passions is sailing so among other things I volunteer as a member evaluator with my sailing club. Recently I needed to go sailing with a newer club member whose membership application I had approved about a year ago. It was one of the easiest approvals ever, as born and raised on boats, she was highly competent and a teacher by profession, ticking all the boxes. Out of the blue, I received a
As a parent, we are faced with a number of challenges. We have to learn to balance our lives, manage our households, and raise and train our children to be outstanding members of the society they are going to live in. We raise them to be good, to work hard, and to treat others well. We expect them to make themselves proud, and hopefully us in the process. All the while we are navigating waters
Have you ever felt like, even though you understand and have practiced perceptual positions, sometimes they don’t make changes by themselves? Like sometimes you need something else, another bucket than the three standard positions? Perceptual positions are a core distinction in NLP, one that is used in multiple processes and techniques. Our perceptual positions guide our experiences. It is through this key distinction that we form memories, experiences, and reactions. But what if our perceptual
“It ain’t what you don’t know. It’s what you know that ain’t so.” -Yogi Berra A foundational principle in NLP is the importance of information gathering. Frequently simply getting accurate information is enough to cause a behavior change. In NLP one precise approach is called a “Double description”. Double description means exactly what it sounds like. It means getting a thorough and detailed description from 2 different points of view, ideally from two different perspectives
I wondered about that NLP Presupposition for a long time. Finally, I thought of one place where it is really useful. That place is behaviors you wish to simply stop, without replacing. Procrastinating is a very powerful way to stop those habits, behaviors, or addictions that you’re already really tired of. After all, isn’t the definition of procrastinating not doing? For instance, I drank alcohol pretty consistently for most of my adult life. Last year
It’s happened to all of us. We have someone in our lives and we want to help them change. Maybe they want to quit smoking, make more money or improve an important relationship in their life. Whatever it is, the story is the same. They tell us they want to change, they have tried to change, and they have never successfully changed. So, what is that about? Can you help them change, and more importantly,
Have you ever had that moment when you say something with very little purpose, just part of a story, and all of a sudden it hits you…a hidden limiting belief you have and when you got it? Something you had no idea you ever believed, you never consciously thought about it, but when you heard yourself speaking you realized that slippery little bugger had embedded itself without you ever knowing? Geez…that just happened to me
Times of great turmoil and change within the human experience are the perfect time to discover how well we have cultivated states of inner peace and well-being. (So what if everyone is freaking about money. There really isn’t any less of it on the planet!). In “The New Earth” Eckhart Tolle writes “How to be at peace now? By making peace with the present moment. Once you have made peace with the present moment, see
Perry Marshall wrote the book on Google Search when most others could barely spell SEO. In fact, Google hired him to explain it to them. So obviously, a very smart guy. Perry was also a good friend of Tom Hoobyar, my co-author on “NLP: The Essential Guide“. This story isn’t from the book, so you probably haven’t heard it yet. It’s a quick, easy story of how a couple of friends, just chatting away one
An Excerpt from “NLP: The Essential Guide” – Understanding NLP I bet you think you know what’s real, right? If we were in the room together, you might assume that the world you live in is the same one I live in. Sorry, Charlie, it just ain’t so. As soon as we’re born, we begin noticing things. At first, it’s chaos. You can imagine all that stuff flooding in, all those images, all those sounds,