NLP for Beginners: Learn the Basics of NLP Here (how-tos, exercises, etc)

There’s Always An Alternative

When NLP started practitioners usually only got to work with friends, college students, and really tough situations. Friends because they’re around, and tough challenges because the established practitioners, whatever the field, will usually only give up the ones they’ve given up on. Oh, and college students because they’re available, work cheap, and will follow almost any instructions if you say “it’s a scientific study.” Ever wonder to what extent our understanding of humans has been

Tom Dotz July 19, 2022

Beginning NLP

You can’t make ‘em change

It’s happened to all of us. We have someone in our lives and we want to help them change. Maybe they want to quit smoking, make more money or improve an important relationship in their life. Whatever it is, the story is the same. They tell us they want to change, they have tried to change, and they have never successfully changed. So, what is that about? Can you help them change, and more importantly,

Tracy Hoobyar June 7, 2022

Your Brain on Leadership? Assess Yourself!

I just read a great article “Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership” from the September 2008 issue of Harvard Business Review. It details fascinating new research by Daniel Goleman of “emotional intelligence” (EQ) fame. The emerging field of social neuroscience — the study of what happens in the brain while people interact — will be familiar to any of you with NLP training. It’s the scientific proof of what we’ve been doing in this field

Tom Dotz May 17, 2022

Beginning NLP

What hidden beliefs do you have?

Have you ever had that moment when you say something with very little purpose, just part of a story, and all of a sudden it hits you…a hidden limiting belief you have and when you got it? Something you had no idea you ever believed, you never consciously thought about it, but when you heard yourself speaking you realized that slippery little bugger had embedded itself without you ever knowing? Geez…that just happened to me

Tracy Hoobyar May 17, 2022

NLP Perceptual Filters and the Filtering Mindset

The primary presupposition underlying all of Neuro-Linguistic Programming is that The Map is not the Territory. You experience life through a set of personal perceptual filters that are unique to you. Your experience is filtered first by the limits of your sensory organs and what you perceive as a small slice of the world. In this sense, you are out of touch with reality, because your every perception is ‘filtered’ not only by your biology

Tom Dotz August 1, 2021

Beginning NLP

3 NLP Techniques to Create Instant State Change

I had a request to re-post this classic from our archives, so here it is! By Kevin Creedon, it’s a great little piece of quick-change artistry good for all 🙂 3 NLP Techniques to Create Instant State Change – by Kevin Creedon “Think of a problem.” Those four words are used repeatedly throughout NLP training because most of the time NLP techniques are used in a prescriptive manner. That means that, after the fact, we

Tom Dotz July 18, 2021

Beginning NLP

The Well-Formed Outcome: Simply Motivating

To properly do NLP you need three things: Rapport An Outcome And a Ritual We started with Rapport: how to establish a connection so that people care. Now we will move to Outcomes and then Rituals, or as they are known in NLP, processes. Today we will use a blended example of outcome and ritual called the “Well Formed Outcome Process” and create an experience for you. First, some clarity. Goals and Outcomes are frequently

Tom Dotz November 10, 2020

Rapport: What It Is and Why You Care

815 Words, 3.26 time to read, read online <link> After the last couple of emails about some very specific ways to establish rapport, it occurred to me that I hadn’t defined it, or described its importance. Let’s dive into that now and be clear on how, where, and why you care (a lot) about the ability to have rapport, and even to be able to turn it off at will. John Grinder, the co-founder of

Tom Dotz October 29, 2020

Still Essential: Rapport Skills in the time of Corona

Most of us are spending more time that ever imagined on zoom, FaceTime and other forms of interactive video. Without the personal contact we are used to, emotional distance can creep in too. This is where good old NLP rapport skills can come to the fore for you. A basic principle of NLP is that every behavior is useful in some context. Here’s how this context of virtual reality can be used to make some

Tom Dotz September 17, 2020

Beginning NLP

Perry Marshall’s Learnings with NLP

Perry Marshall wrote the book on Google Search when most others could barely spell SEO. In fact, Google hired him to explain it to them. So obviously, a very smart guy. Perry was also a good friend of Tom Hoobyar, my co-author on “NLP: The Essential Guide“. This story isn’t from the book, so you probably haven’t heard it yet. It’s a quick, easy story of how a couple of friends, just chatting away one

Tom Dotz July 24, 2019