An Excerpt from “NLP: The Essential Guide” – Understanding NLP I bet you think you know what’s real, right? If we were in the room together, you might assume that the world you live in is the same one I live in. Sorry, Charlie, it just ain’t so. As soon as we’re born, we begin noticing things. At first, it’s chaos. You can imagine all that stuff flooding in, all those images, all those sounds,
Hi and Welcome Back! Now that the January rush to perfection has passed, here’s an amusing takedown of the “instant gratification” self-improvement plans you’ve been pestered by, again, this year. As annoyed as I have been over the decades by the “easy money” and “miracle cure” charlatans of the self-improvement industry, I haven’t taken the time to write a takedown. Recently the highly entertaining Shelle Rose Charvet did a boffo job of it, with her
It happens to the best of us. We get so into our routine that we forget to do the unexpected. Our day to day habits become the only things we do. We find ourselves declining invitations to do other things because we have a routine. We don’t make new plans if they aren’t a part of our routine. And before we know it a year has passed and we don’t really remember anything spectacular about
Can I be honest? One of my biggest pet peeves, as a parent and a person, is when people don’t own their own choices. And you know, it’s funny. I don’t remember my parents drilling that into me as a kid or anything. I don’t even remember it ever coming up. I do remember, like most of us, making mistakes and blaming other people. Most kids do, right? And even some adults do. But I
Have you heard the saying “It’s a long road but…?” It seems to come in and out of popularity and is usually used when talking about changing behaviors or making some other impactful change in life. I hear that a lot when talking about changing habits. Quitting smoking, starting a new behavior…anything like that. So, as I heard someone say this recently I began thinking back. Wondering how many times I have heard this saying
Have you ever gone to traditional therapy? I’m talking about a therapist that is trained in traditional behavior change, without and current or new modalities to pull from. When I was 15 I went through a rather difficult phase in life. Well, I should be more clear. My 15 was particularly difficult for my parents. I was having a blast!  🙂 Anyway, I was really testing my limits, hanging out with friends, and starting to
Are you familiar with 30 day challenges? These days you can find them in almost any industry or focus that you can imagine. And if it’s not a 30 day challenge it’s a 90 day, or 6 month, or 12 month challenge. All you have to do is a quick search online for 30 day challenge and you’ll come up with more results than you can possible explore. Links, images, articles…they are everywhere. (Over 30
The other day I was driving down the highway with my daughter and we passed a nice car with personalized plates. I don’t know what it is about personalized plates, but I always love to guess what they say. Some of the license plates are really creative! As we were coming up on this car I could tell it was a personalized plate (all of ours are a combination of letters and numbers and this
Metaphors are a valuable tool that can help us uncover blocks we didn’t know existed. Read below as Steve Andreas shares an experience where metaphors were particularly useful. (Originally published on www.realpeoplepress.com/blog) What do You Experience When Someone Breaks an Agreement? by Steve Andreas Recently I was exasperated by someone who didn’t keep what I thought was an agreement between us. But “Exasperation” doesn’t fully express the intensity of the confusion and disorientation I felt
About 10 years ago my then 9 year old daughter started a yoga business. Â She wanted to help kids learn yoga as a tool for dealing with their emotions and struggles in a healthy way. She also felt she could help kids learn a healthy habit without telling them that it would be healthy. A few years later she wrote a book that hit the bestseller lists on Amazon within 48 hours. It was exciting