Emotional intelligence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can train.
Using NLP tools like anchoring, perceptual positions, and precision language, you can build EQ from the ground up.
Learn how to shift from reacting to responding—and develop emotional skills that transform your relationships, leadership, and self-awareness.
Have you ever felt an emotion come out of nowhere—a wave of anxiety, a flash of anger, or a moment of motivation—and wondered why it hit so hard? The answer might lie in how your brain represents that experience. It’s not just the thought itself, but how that thought shows up in your mind. That’s where submodalities come in. And once you understand how they work, you can use them to shift your emotional state—quickly,
The phrase “I don’t know” often signifies a mental block, leading to learned helplessness.
Instead, reframing the question to “How would you find out?” encourages active problem-solving and taps into existing resources.
This approach fosters autonomy and enables better strategic thinking in coaching, team settings, and personal self-coaching.
NLP Triggering and Anchoring – Firing Together Today the words and experience of triggering are all over the media. It’s almost always reported as a negative experience. There are calls to forbid certain behaviors because they ‘trigger’ some people. Triggering is just one part of a stimulus-response loop that was modeled in the early days of NLP and is called NLP anchoring. Anchoring and trigger descriptions in the media are entirely inadequate. They are like
Atomic Habits or Big Life-Affirming Goals? Why not both? A couple of different approaches have proven effective in achieving goals, and motivation is essential to all of them. One approach is the Tiny Little Habits approach, popularized in the “Atomic Habits” book. This method involves adding one little tiny habit at a time. Over time, you will achieve some pretty substantial differences in your life. The other way is to choose a significant goal
Negotiating and Resolving Conflicts, Internal and External: Framing, Reframing, and the Six-Step Process You’ve heard of “framing” in the context of politics, marketing, and areas where influencing people is a primary concern. In any context, the party setting the frame has preempted the permissible dialogue. For instance, in the area of politics, the Republican party has very successfully framed gun ownership as an issue of personal freedom. That consistently imposed framing has allowed them to
Avoiding collapsing businesses and getting a better job? Making better investments in love and life? The Power of Four – How Four little questions can change your world – or the world of someone around you. “According to whom?” “What would happen if you did/didn’t? How, exactly,…? Who, specifically…? One of the essential language sections in any good NLP training is called the MetaModel. It’s the first set of language patterns taught because understanding and
The primary presupposition underlying all of Neuro-Linguistic Programming is that The Map is not the Territory. You experience life through a set of personal perceptual filters that are unique to you. Your experience is filtered first by the limits of your sensory organs and what you perceive as a small slice of the world. In this sense, you are out of touch with reality, because your every perception is ‘filtered’ not only by your biology
One of the most valuable lessons I learned from my mom and step-dad – everyone processes at different speeds. You see, my mom was a very quick thinker with a wicked sense of humor. My step-dad, brilliant in his own right, was a much slower thinking, processing everything before responding. Unfortunately for my mother, that often meant going days without getting an answer or input on something. My mom, as a quick thinker, was also
Or Popping out of the bad feels We are now in what is being called “The Great Reset”. We know much of what we knew has changed, and we know we don’t know how it will all play out. What is still as true as ever is that if someone suggests they do know what the future will be, keep a firm grip on your wallet. In the midst of change accelerating at a pace