Or Popping out of the bad feels We are now in what is being called “The Great Reset”. We know much of what we knew has changed, and we know we don’t know how it will all play out. What is still as true as ever is that if someone suggests they do know what the future will be, keep a firm grip on your wallet. In the midst of change accelerating at a pace
How’re You Doin’? Article Word Count 932, average reading time 3.7 minutes “Fine”, is what you’d probably answer, if someone asked you this question. Actually, “fine” is what we say to be polite, no matter HOW we are feeling! We’re all taught that. Think about the last hundred times you said or heard, “How are you”? Wasn’t the answer usually, “Fine”? That’s why it’s so important to develop a real sensitivity to all the other
This is one of many stories I fondly remember from my first Practitioner Training. Along with numerous others it’s to be found in the Trainer’s Version of the “NLP Comprehensive Practitioner Training Manual” as well as in “Is There Life Before Death?” Among other reasons that the training was remarkable was that while a lot of entertaining stories were told, building rapport and keeping us alert in the moment, none of them were accidental. Each
About Personal Independence I had a client recently who complained about not feeling like he was “his own person.” “It’s like I live my whole life for others, and I never really feel worthy.” Pretty funny, since he an attorney, partner in a large firm employing a couple hundred lawyers. “So how do you act at work?” I asked. “Oh, then I’m being the Guy in Charge, so that’s a no-brainer,” he answered. “It’s when
20 Max? A new and literally historical training opportunity. You have a rare chance: we are going to have the most intimate summer Practitioner training ever in our 30 year history this year. While I might like to announce the biggest ever, for you this is a unique, unrepeatable opportunity. We expect to have a maximum of 20 people in the Practitioner program and this means that in addition to all the other benefits you’ll
When Goals are Dead-Ends by Charles Faulkner Living in the Age of Goals We live in the Age of Goals. We’re in the 25th year of Management by Objective (MBO) and at least the 55th year of goal setting thanks in large part to Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale and Norman Vincent Peale. According to an old middle eastern adage; “You shall not reach Mecca, for you are on the road to Medina” and on this
Years ago the then so-named anti-abortion movement seemed to be making little progress. Then they started re-branding themselves the “pro-life” movement. Well, if they were the pro-life movement, and you opposed them, what did that make you? Anti-life? Pro-Death? Take your pick; poor choices all. You’ll notice two important elements of framing in that example. First, re-framing their label took a lot of time and effort. The media didn’t change from calling them anti-abortionists to
One of the favorite criticisms of NLP is that it’s just a “Quick Fix.” This is pretty amusing since it’s simply posing a false criterion: that to be valuable change must take some minimum period of time (Really? According to whom? How long would be long enough?So if it took one second less then it would be invalid? ;- ). The right question is simply “does it work?” This video solidly answers that question. If
One of the most popular areas in NLP is the set of processes for changing beliefs. I also get a lot of requests for patterns and processes you can do by yourself. So this week I’m including one of the simplest and most suitable for a “DIY” approach. Created by Robert Dilts, the “Walking Belief Change Pattern” is both powerful and easy to use, even if you don’t have a lot of experience with NLP.
Word Count 884 reading time 3.5 minutes Sometimes it’s easy to think that changing someone’s beliefs requires a big formal process. I was out visiting some old familiar places in Silicon Valley last week. After living there 25 years you make some interesting acquaintances. Meeting an old pal for coffee one day he introduced me to a friend of his whose business had really been devastated by the economic downturn. I’ll call him Gil. He