Last week, we shared Coach Lisa’s exercise on the “Inside Family.”
Today, I want to share her process on building a more supportive “soundtrack” for your life. I call it “The Good Guys.”
Even those of us who are Master NLP’ers still have self-talk that we are largely unaware of, that is not positive and supportive. Disciplining yourself to a daily practice of befriending your inner self pays off big!
The alternative is like driving through life with one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake: Takes a lot longer to get where you’re going (it also burns a lot of energy and is hard on the car).
Here’s the process:
- Imagine one of your “naysayer” critic’s voices. What is it saying? Notice the tonality, the pitch, the volume, the tempo.
- Now, think of someone who is a great inspiration and mentor. Imagine that person talking to you about an important goal that you have, or perhaps a mistake that you have made. Hear their inspiring tonality, pitch, and tempo.
- Now, imagine the “naysayer” is speaking to you in this NEW way, with their voice tone and tempo and pitch. Perhaps the “message” changes to be softer, more thoughtful, more ? Maybe it’s in the form of a question now?
- Create and anchor a “Good Guy” (or 2 or 3!) who interrupts the naysayers that run on in your head and beat you up. Imagine the next week … including some of the stresses and disappointments you may face … with the Good Guys as your coaches. What changes?
- Repeat and practice often.
Waking up to how we really “talk to ourselves” is a critical step in cultivating greater success.
Get more of your “good guys” on your side and watch immediate change unfolding for you now!