Relationships & Rapport Archives

Beginning NLP

The Most Powerful Word in NLP (And How to Use It in Any Conversation)

Imagine a single word that can lower resistance, activate the senses, and inspire real change.

In NLP, that word is “imagine,” and it works by engaging the unconscious mind to create vivid, motivating internal experiences.

From coaching and leadership to parenting and conflict resolution, learning to use “imagine” can transform the way you influence and connect.

Tracy Hoobyar September 2, 2025

Advanced NLP

How to Use NLP to Get People to Want to Change

You can’t change someone who’s defending their current reality — but NLP gives you the keys.

By using tools like agreement frames, outcome framing, and sleight of mouth, you can soften resistance and create safety for change.

When you shift the frame, you don’t force breakthroughs — you invite them, and that’s where lasting influence begins.

Tracy Hoobyar August 19, 2025

Advanced NLP

Why NLP Stops Working (And What to Do When It Does)

NLP doesn’t actually stop working – but it can feel like it when change doesn’t stick.

The real issue is often moving from learning techniques to living the transformation.

By focusing on ecology, identity, and integration, you can turn NLP from a short-term fix into a lasting way of thinking and being.

Tracy Hoobyar August 12, 2025

Anchoring

Emotional Intelligence Isn’t a Trait—It’s a Trainable NLP Skill

Emotional intelligence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can train.

Using NLP tools like anchoring, perceptual positions, and precision language, you can build EQ from the ground up.

Learn how to shift from reacting to responding—and develop emotional skills that transform your relationships, leadership, and self-awareness.

Tracy Hoobyar June 5, 2025

How To Win Socially

This article is about a special kind of practice that will give you more confidence in social situations because you’ll know that what you’re doing is better than what you used to do. Enjoy! Tom Dotz This article covers a simple technique that will work wonders for you. In fact, with this method, you can improve in many kinds of activities, not just social ones. First, an old story. A guy visiting New York City

Tom Dotz November 23, 2022

Life Skills: Rapport #2, The Power Move: Pacing And Leading In Conversational Rapport-Building

Life Skills: Pacing and Leading, The Power Move In Conversational Rapport-Building. Many behaviors can be paced, or mirrored. These NLP Rapport skills are pretty easy to learn, and you can practice them anytime and anywhere that you can observe someone. They are tools you can use to create better connections and have greater influence. These NLP skills will benefit you in all types of communications. And in today’s world, COVID-19 has eliminated physical face-to-face meetings.

Tom Dotz September 24, 2020

Relationships & Rapport

Finding NLP Your Clients

For many of us, finding clients is the only thing standing between us and success. You may feel your training is solid, your skills are dialed in, and you have accumulated some fantastic successes. Given that, your practice should be full and keeping you busy, right? Wrong. If only practice building were that easy. Regardless of your experience, you still need to market yourself in order to keep a full practice. And for many coaches,

Tracy Hoobyar August 3, 2017

Advanced NLP

Working with Other People’s Meta-Programs

I’m very fortunate. Business has been busy and growing. While, like anyone, there are bumps in the road, things are all in all going well. In fact, I’ve just added new members to my team. One of them is my daughter! It’s really cool when you get to work with someone you already know and respect! I consider myself to be exceptionally lucky in that respect. We are very much alike in some core areas,

Tom Dotz July 31, 2017

It’s All About You

You know what? YOU are amazing. Your presence on this earth is a gift. Thank you for your attention today to read this humble offering. It is a grand world we live in when people across the world can exchange ideas and connect with each other, without ever meeting. Don’t you agree? What did this little intro do for you? Did it make you feel a little better or bring a smile to your face?

lisaj November 13, 2008

Positive Intention and Adolescence

“I can’t wait to figure out what’s wrong with me, so I can say ‘This is the way that I used to be.’ “ John Mayer, Split Screen Sadness I want to tell you about a really good day. One of those experiences that lingered and energized me for several days that followed. It’s hard not to be inspired from the moment you wake up to a perfect Colorado Fall “Opposite” day: Crisp AND warm. Trees a

lisaj October 8, 2008