A goal on paper is just a wish.
A goal in your nervous system becomes a directive that moves you naturally toward action.
By weaving in sensory submodalities, emotional anchors, and environmental cues, NLP helps you transform static goals into living patterns that stick.
You can’t change someone who’s defending their current reality — but NLP gives you the keys.
By using tools like agreement frames, outcome framing, and sleight of mouth, you can soften resistance and create safety for change.
When you shift the frame, you don’t force breakthroughs — you invite them, and that’s where lasting influence begins.
NLP doesn’t actually stop working – but it can feel like it when change doesn’t stick.
The real issue is often moving from learning techniques to living the transformation.
By focusing on ecology, identity, and integration, you can turn NLP from a short-term fix into a lasting way of thinking and being.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why the people around you don’t seem to notice how much you’re holding, how much you’re managing, navigating, absorbing, and keeping afloat, this isn’t about your workload. It’s about your language. Not the formal kind. Not what you say in team meetings or in well-crafted emails. I’m talking about micro-patterns. The reflexive phrases. The way you describe your day, your stress, your needs (or lack thereof). The way you
Access and Anchoring to Three States – An Advanced NLP Exercise Here is a classic NLP Anchoring process exercise. Often overlooked and still as powerful as ever! While designed for groups of four, you can certainly do it with two, and even, perhaps, practice with yourself! Anchoring with NLP has already been introduced as the super glue that sticks experiences together in the previous day’s group exercise on future pacing. Examples: sleep postures. “Our song,” smell
I’m very fortunate. Business has been busy and growing. While, like anyone, there are bumps in the road, things are all in all going well. In fact, I’ve just added new members to my team. One of them is my daughter! It’s really cool when you get to work with someone you already know and respect! I consider myself to be exceptionally lucky in that respect. We are very much alike in some core areas,
A couple of weeks ago I shared my journey with yoga with you. How my identity kept me from trying it, and my new committment to doing yoga every day. First, an update. I am not only still doing yoga…I notice the daily practice, combined with broken belief patterns and shift in identity, are leading to a more disciplined approach to my day and my health. Fascinating! Beliefs I didn’t even know I had I
Here is another short and sweet example of language at work from our co-founder, Steve Andreas. Instant (and lasting) Conversational Change by Steve Andreas A friend sent me a very interesting example of conversational change: In the biography of Janos Starker, world-renowned cellist — who has recorded more pieces than any other, and who was once called the “King of Cellists” and still teaching at 86 — there is a story concerning his habit of being
Beginning in the 70’s Steve and Connirae Andreas started modeling and codifying NLP patterns. As common as it is today, in the 80’s they were the first to create video recordings as teaching tools for NLP. Over the decades of developing and refining some very advanced NLP patterns, a few of the recordings were lost. One of those lost recordings was of the “Last Straw” threshold pattern. Steve wanted to make this available again, and
Language Directs Attention: Negative Commands – How they don’t work (and do!) Here Connirae Andreas describes this distinction in a context where it’s a easy to recognize the importance of this distinction! And whatever you do, don’t start wondering now just how soon you’ll find ways to use these in your life.:-) Offering Positive Alternatives: Telling Children What We DO Want Let’s suppose your child came up to you and asked you what you wanted