Greetings! This is a “How To Enjoy The Holiday” email. It will tell you how to have a wonderful holiday, even though you have to put up with some of your least favorite people. For many folks, holiday gatherings are a chore and a challenge. Face it, there’s a reason that this time of year, in spite of all the yummy songs about “Good will to all” – is frequently a time of tension. Just
1459 words, average reading time 5.8 minutes Greetings! There is a dirty little secret in the NLP world. And it’s this: No matter how much you know, it’s VERY difficult to do real work on yourself. We all know this. There’s even a saying about it: “Doing NLP on yourself is like playing tennis alone. You can do it, but it’s very slow.” The Problem Is That You Can’t Be In Two Places At Once.
I have an asparagus fern named Lazarus. Why did I name him Lazarus? I’ll tell you why. I named him Lazarus because when I first got him for my batchelor apartment I was sometimes a neglectful caretaker. I got the plant so there would be something alive in my apartment besides me. It came in a small green plastic pot about the size of a coffee mug and cost two dollars. It was a little
How’re You Doin’? Article Word Count 932, average reading time 3.7 minutes “Fine”, is what you’d probably answer, if someone asked you this question. Actually, “fine” is what we say to be polite, no matter HOW we are feeling! We’re all taught that. Think about the last hundred times you said or heard, “How are you”? Wasn’t the answer usually, “Fine”? That’s why it’s so important to develop a real sensitivity to all the other
Troublesome Gulch is the name of a road in the town one over. It happens to be where a famous ex-Senator lives who certainly created his share of troubles for himself. However his internal dialogue framed it, he behaved as if the rules didn’t apply to him. All it cost him was his Senate seat and his candidacy for President of the US. Hopefully your internal voices are giving you support that is much
Attitude is one of the key tenets of NLP. In this sweet story Steve Andreas tells how attitude and setting your perceptual filters can combine to sort your experience and your opportunities to bring you more of what is best for you. Enjoy! Tom Dotz Giving Thanks by Steve Andreas. 850 words, approximate reading time 3.7 minutes There is a story of an old farmer in the 1860s whose land lay along the western migration
Here’s another fun story embodying the principles of NLP by one of our favorite writers, Tom Hoobyar. Tom’s in the process of completing a book deal with a major publisher based largely on the articles he’s written for you here – so look forward to a big announcement next year!
Many people would agree with the old song lyric “War – what is it good for? Absolutely nothing.” Well, ok, except maybe for freeing slaves. Stopping a genocidal dictator from taking over all of Europe. Creating a new model of self governance out of the colony of a distant power. In NLP we take the stance that every behavior is useful in some context. Anger, too, is useful in some contexts. The secret is, as
Language patterns are one of the most constantly popular models in NLP. Here in a story from the book “Is There Life Before Death?” Steve Andreas describes in a very easy way the profound traps we create by our (mis)use of language in our everyday lives. And if you would like to search through some really clever patterns in depth we have a couple of the two most popular sources. For language pattern learning the
This is one of many stories I fondly remember from my first Practitioner Training. Along with numerous others it’s to be found in the Trainer’s Version of the “NLP Comprehensive Practitioner Training Manual” as well as in “Is There Life Before Death?” Among other reasons that the training was remarkable was that while a lot of entertaining stories were told, building rapport and keeping us alert in the moment, none of them were accidental. Each