How’re You Doin’? Article Word Count 932, average reading time 3.7 minutes “Fine”, is what you’d probably answer, if someone asked you this question. Actually, “fine” is what we say to be polite, no matter HOW we are feeling! We’re all taught that. Think about the last hundred times you said or heard, “How are you”? Wasn’t the answer usually, “Fine”? That’s why it’s so important to develop a real sensitivity to all the other
Troublesome Gulch is the name of a road in the town one over. It happens to be where a famous ex-Senator lives who certainly created his share of troubles for himself. However his internal dialogue framed it, he behaved as if the rules didn’t apply to him. All it cost him was his Senate seat and his candidacy for President of the US. Hopefully your internal voices are giving you support that is much
Attitude is one of the key tenets of NLP. In this sweet story Steve Andreas tells how attitude and setting your perceptual filters can combine to sort your experience and your opportunities to bring you more of what is best for you. Enjoy! Tom Dotz Giving Thanks by Steve Andreas. 850 words, approximate reading time 3.7 minutes There is a story of an old farmer in the 1860s whose land lay along the western migration
Here’s another fun story embodying the principles of NLP by one of our favorite writers, Tom Hoobyar. Tom’s in the process of completing a book deal with a major publisher based largely on the articles he’s written for you here – so look forward to a big announcement next year!
Many people would agree with the old song lyric “War – what is it good for? Absolutely nothing.” Well, ok, except maybe for freeing slaves. Stopping a genocidal dictator from taking over all of Europe. Creating a new model of self governance out of the colony of a distant power. In NLP we take the stance that every behavior is useful in some context. Anger, too, is useful in some contexts. The secret is, as
Language patterns are one of the most constantly popular models in NLP. Here in a story from the book “Is There Life Before Death?” Steve Andreas describes in a very easy way the profound traps we create by our (mis)use of language in our everyday lives. And if you would like to search through some really clever patterns in depth we have a couple of the two most popular sources. For language pattern learning the
This is one of many stories I fondly remember from my first Practitioner Training. Along with numerous others it’s to be found in the Trainer’s Version of the “NLP Comprehensive Practitioner Training Manual” as well as in “Is There Life Before Death?” Among other reasons that the training was remarkable was that while a lot of entertaining stories were told, building rapport and keeping us alert in the moment, none of them were accidental. Each
“To do NLP you need three things: An Outcome, Rapport, and a Ritual.” – John Grinder The fundamentals underlie everything. In our NLP trainings we spend a good deal of time on the essentials of rapport like matching, mirroring, and pacing in various modalities. Here’s an example of how a mismatch in just one submodality can be very costly. Steve Andreas relates how even a linguist can miss the significance of tonality and its affect
Found another short bit from Steve Andreas that gets to one of the important distinctions about words and language. The point he makes is global and often overlooked. Words – Steve Andreas It was at a party in California in the mind-1970’s. Our friend Mike had arrived quite hungry, and there was a big plate of chocolate brownies on the dining room table, so he helped himself, repeatedly. After he had eaten about nine squares,
I’ve been at the warehouse on one of my periodic “it’s time to clean out this place” passions.. It’s a bit of a challenge sometimes. If cleaning out your closet or garage seems like a bit much, imagine a whole warehouse. Oops. I mean stop imagining anything that big or possibly overwhelming. 😉 Instead, enjoy this article I found by Steve about some really pleasant and useful ways to deal with reducing clutter in your