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Beginning NLP

3 NLP Techniques to Create Instant State Change

I had a request to re-post this classic from our archives, so here it is! By Kevin Creedon, it’s a great little piece of quick-change artistry good for all 🙂 3 NLP Techniques to Create Instant State Change – by Kevin Creedon “Think of a problem.” Those four words are used repeatedly throughout NLP training because most of the time NLP techniques are used in a prescriptive manner. That means that, after the fact, we

Tom Dotz July 18, 2021

Beginning NLP

The Well-Formed Outcome: Simply Motivating

To properly do NLP you need three things: Rapport An Outcome And a Ritual We started with Rapport: how to establish a connection so that people care. Now we will move to Outcomes and then Rituals, or as they are known in NLP, processes. Today we will use a blended example of outcome and ritual called the “Well Formed Outcome Process” and create an experience for you. First, some clarity. Goals and Outcomes are frequently

Tom Dotz November 10, 2020

Rapport: What It Is and Why You Care

815 Words, 3.26 time to read, read online <link> After the last couple of emails about some very specific ways to establish rapport, it occurred to me that I hadn’t defined it, or described its importance. Let’s dive into that now and be clear on how, where, and why you care (a lot) about the ability to have rapport, and even to be able to turn it off at will. John Grinder, the co-founder of

Tom Dotz October 29, 2020

Still Essential: Rapport Skills in the time of Corona

Most of us are spending more time that ever imagined on zoom, FaceTime and other forms of interactive video. Without the personal contact we are used to, emotional distance can creep in too. This is where good old NLP rapport skills can come to the fore for you. A basic principle of NLP is that every behavior is useful in some context. Here’s how this context of virtual reality can be used to make some

Tom Dotz September 17, 2020

Beginning NLP

Perry Marshall’s Learnings with NLP

Perry Marshall wrote the book on Google Search when most others could barely spell SEO. In fact, Google hired him to explain it to them. So obviously, a very smart guy. Perry was also a good friend of Tom Hoobyar, my co-author on “NLP: The Essential Guide“. This story isn’t from the book, so you probably haven’t heard it yet. It’s a quick, easy story of how a couple of friends, just chatting away one

Tom Dotz July 24, 2019

Different Planets: The Worlds Inside Our Minds

An Excerpt from “NLP: The Essential Guide” – Understanding NLP I bet you think you know what’s real, right? If we were in the room together, you might assume that the world you live in is the same one I live in. Sorry, Charlie, it just ain’t so. As soon as we’re born, we begin noticing things. At first, it’s chaos. You can imagine all that stuff flooding in, all those images, all those sounds,

Tom Dotz April 18, 2019

Master Manipulators

Hi and Welcome Back! Now that the January rush to perfection has passed, here’s an amusing takedown of the “instant gratification” self-improvement plans you’ve been pestered by, again, this year. As annoyed as I have been over the decades by the “easy money” and “miracle cure” charlatans of the self-improvement industry, I haven’t taken the time to write a takedown. Recently the highly entertaining Shelle Rose Charvet did a boffo job of it, with her

Tom Dotz February 26, 2019

Beginning NLP

How would you define a spectacular life?

It happens to the best of us. We get so into our routine that we forget to do the unexpected. Our day to day habits become the only things we do. We find ourselves declining invitations to do other things because we have a routine. We don’t make new plans if they aren’t a part of our routine. And before we know it a year has passed and we don’t really remember anything spectacular about

Tracy Hoobyar December 28, 2017

The Secret to Making Powerful Changes in Your Life

Can I be honest? One of my biggest pet peeves, as a parent and a person, is when people don’t own their own choices. And you know, it’s funny. I don’t remember my parents drilling that into me as a kid or anything. I don’t even remember it ever coming up. I do remember, like most of us, making mistakes and blaming other people. Most kids do, right? And even some adults do. But I

Tom Dotz October 19, 2017

Beginning NLP

Why does it have to be a long road?

Have you heard the saying “It’s a long road but…?” It seems to come in and out of popularity and is usually used when talking about changing behaviors or making some other impactful change in life. I hear that a lot when talking about changing habits. Quitting smoking, starting a new behavior…anything like that. So, as I heard someone say this recently I began thinking back. Wondering how many times I have heard this saying

Tracy Hoobyar October 11, 2017