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Still Essential: Rapport Skills in the time of Corona

Most of us are spending more time that ever imagined on zoom, FaceTime and other forms of interactive video. Without the personal contact we are used to, emotional distance can creep in too. This is where good old NLP rapport skills can come to the fore for you. A basic principle of NLP is that every behavior is useful in some context. Here’s how this context of virtual reality can be used to make some

Tom Dotz September 17, 2020

Beginning NLP

Perry Marshall’s Learnings with NLP

Perry Marshall wrote the book on Google Search when most others could barely spell SEO. In fact, Google hired him to explain it to them. So obviously, a very smart guy. Perry was also a good friend of Tom Hoobyar, my co-author on “NLP: The Essential Guide“. This story isn’t from the book, so you probably haven’t heard it yet. It’s a quick, easy story of how a couple of friends, just chatting away one

Tom Dotz July 24, 2019

Different Planets: The Worlds Inside Our Minds

An Excerpt from “NLP: The Essential Guide” – Understanding NLP I bet you think you know what’s real, right? If we were in the room together, you might assume that the world you live in is the same one I live in. Sorry, Charlie, it just ain’t so. As soon as we’re born, we begin noticing things. At first, it’s chaos. You can imagine all that stuff flooding in, all those images, all those sounds,

Tom Dotz April 18, 2019

Master Manipulators

Hi and Welcome Back! Now that the January rush to perfection has passed, here’s an amusing takedown of the “instant gratification” self-improvement plans you’ve been pestered by, again, this year. As annoyed as I have been over the decades by the “easy money” and “miracle cure” charlatans of the self-improvement industry, I haven’t taken the time to write a takedown. Recently the highly entertaining Shelle Rose Charvet did a boffo job of it, with her

Tom Dotz February 26, 2019

Beginning NLP

How would you define a spectacular life?

It happens to the best of us. We get so into our routine that we forget to do the unexpected. Our day to day habits become the only things we do. We find ourselves declining invitations to do other things because we have a routine. We don’t make new plans if they aren’t a part of our routine. And before we know it a year has passed and we don’t really remember anything spectacular about

Tracy Hoobyar December 28, 2017

The Secret to Making Powerful Changes in Your Life

Can I be honest? One of my biggest pet peeves, as a parent and a person, is when people don’t own their own choices. And you know, it’s funny. I don’t remember my parents drilling that into me as a kid or anything. I don’t even remember it ever coming up. I do remember, like most of us, making mistakes and blaming other people. Most kids do, right? And even some adults do. But I

Tom Dotz October 19, 2017

Beginning NLP

Why does it have to be a long road?

Have you heard the saying “It’s a long road but…?” It seems to come in and out of popularity and is usually used when talking about changing behaviors or making some other impactful change in life. I hear that a lot when talking about changing habits. Quitting smoking, starting a new behavior…anything like that. So, as I heard someone say this recently I began thinking back. Wondering how many times I have heard this saying

Tracy Hoobyar October 11, 2017

Beginning NLP

How do you create your feelings?

Have you ever gone to traditional therapy? I’m talking about a therapist that is trained in traditional behavior change, without and current or new modalities to pull from. When I was 15 I went through a rather difficult phase in life. Well, I should be more clear. My 15 was particularly difficult for my parents. I was having a blast! 🙂 Anyway, I was really testing my limits, hanging out with friends, and starting to

Tracy Hoobyar August 24, 2017

Advanced NLP

Working with Other People’s Meta-Programs

I’m very fortunate. Business has been busy and growing. While, like anyone, there are bumps in the road, things are all in all going well. In fact, I’ve just added new members to my team. One of them is my daughter! It’s really cool when you get to work with someone you already know and respect! I consider myself to be exceptionally lucky in that respect. We are very much alike in some core areas,

Tom Dotz July 31, 2017

Beginning NLP

Chunk It Down…A Personal Journey Back to Strength

Are you familiar with 30 day challenges? These days you can find them in almost any industry or focus that you can imagine. And if it’s not a 30 day challenge it’s a 90 day, or 6 month, or 12 month challenge. All you have to do is a quick search online for 30 day challenge and you’ll come up with more results than you can possible explore. Links, images, articles…they are everywhere. (Over 30

Tracy Hoobyar July 24, 2017