Skill Level Archives - Page 12 of 17

Understanding Rapport: One Simple Thing

“To do NLP you need three things: An Outcome, Rapport, and a Ritual.” – John Grinder The fundamentals underlie everything. In our NLP trainings we spend a good deal of time on the essentials of rapport like matching, mirroring, and pacing in various modalities. Here’s an example of how a mismatch in just one submodality can be very costly. Steve Andreas relates how even a linguist can miss the significance of tonality and its affect

Tom Dotz August 11, 2010

Words, And What They Sometimes Mean

Found another short bit from Steve Andreas that gets to one of the important distinctions about words and language. The point he makes is global and often overlooked. Words – Steve Andreas It was at a party in California in the mind-1970’s. Our friend Mike had arrived quite hungry, and there was a big plate of chocolate brownies on the dining room table, so he helped himself, repeatedly. After he had eaten about nine squares,

Tom Dotz August 4, 2010

Clearing Out Clutter – A Simple Way

I’ve been at the warehouse on one of my periodic “it’s time to clean out this place” passions.. It’s a bit of a challenge sometimes. If cleaning out your closet or garage seems like a bit much, imagine a whole warehouse. Oops. I mean stop imagining anything that big or possibly overwhelming. 😉 Instead, enjoy this article I found by Steve about some really pleasant and useful ways to deal with reducing clutter in your

Tom Dotz July 27, 2010

Asking And Deserving

Oh it’s summertime, the living is easy, and I’m off to Winter Park for the trainings, wishing you were joining us. Since you aren’t, I have a couple of entertaining and thoughtful stories and metaphors for you. The next few are from the mind of Steve Andreas, and more specifically from his collection of stories “Is There Life Before Death?” Asking and Deserving “You don’t ask, you don’t get.” – Yiddish saying. This used to

Tom Dotz July 21, 2010

The Power Of Touch

Another of our popular stories from Tom Hoobyar embodying some NLP processes and everyday wisdom. This week’s story draws from Section 1 — about anchoring (and much more)- in the NLP Portable Practitioner Training . If you have it, you’ll get even more out of the story! Enjoy, Tom Dotz The Power Of Touch By Tom Hoobyar Article Word Count 1227, average reading time 4.9 minutes. Some years back I met this nice woman in

Tom Dotz July 8, 2010

About Personal Independence

About Personal Independence I had a client recently who complained about not feeling like he was “his own person.” “It’s like I live my whole life for others, and I never really feel worthy.” Pretty funny, since he an attorney, partner in a large firm employing a couple hundred lawyers. “So how do you act at work?” I asked. “Oh, then I’m being the Guy in Charge, so that’s a no-brainer,” he answered. “It’s when

Tom Dotz June 30, 2010

Deciding to learn? Can’t quite get motivated? Strategies: The Commanding NLP Model

Deciding to learn? Can’t quite get motivated? Strategies: The Commanding NLP Model A Story, a Video, a Process, and Announcements Three: This week in NLP! From the questions and comments I see around the web it’s evident that NLP is becoming known more and more as a bundle of “patterns” or “techniques,” mostly concerned with some aspect of self-improvement. That is a sadly limited view. These are simply applications of NLP, or as Grinder once

Tom Dotz June 24, 2010

Rare Chance & A Classic Process: The Resource Strategy

20 Max? A new and literally historical training opportunity. You have a rare chance: we are going to have the most intimate summer Practitioner training ever in our 30 year history this year. While I might like to announce the biggest ever, for you this is a unique, unrepeatable opportunity. We expect to have a maximum of 20 people in the Practitioner program and this means that in addition to all the other benefits you’ll

Tom Dotz June 17, 2010

When Goals are Deadends

When Goals are Dead-Ends by Charles Faulkner Living in the Age of Goals We live in the Age of Goals. We’re in the 25th year of Management by Objective (MBO) and at least the 55th year of goal setting thanks in large part to Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale and Norman Vincent Peale. According to an old middle eastern adage; “You shall not reach Mecca, for you are on the road to Medina” and on this

Tom Dotz April 28, 2010

Why NLP Training? Tom’s Story

“I liked the shaver so much, I bought the company” -Victor Kiam, Remington Electric Over the years many people have asked me what’s important about NLP training. What did I get out of it, how did I get involved in the first place? So let me tell you my story. It was a tough year. Within four months, a successful business I had spent five years building went under. My wife of 18 years left

Tom Dotz February 10, 2010