“People respond to their own model of the world/map of reality, not to reality itself. (The map is not the territory.)” This is perhaps the fundamental statement on which all of the rest of NLP is based. It’s our internal reality, self-created, that determines our world. Yes, we all walk on the same planet. But what we are aware of (and what we ignore) as we walk our path, is what determines our experience. This
NLP graduate Renée Stevens has really hit a home run with a new book about her unique weight loss program. René created an amazing program based on her own experiences and use of NLP to transform her body issues. Here’s what Amazon has to say about her book “Full-Filled: The 6-Week Weight-Loss Plan for Changing Your Relationship with Food-and Your Life-from the Inside Out:”
This is a passionate and moving story of courage and the influence of language. It’s a clear example of the power of stepping into someone else’s world to communicate effectively. You’ll also note the power of the NLP model of pacing and leading as she used it. Her response was the opposite of the classic instructions in such situations. You are usually told to respond to conflict with placating words like “let’s all calm down
Always popular, stress and anxiety are especially common here in the US during our approaching holiday season. The Thanksgiving holiday is intended to be a time of gratitude, of sharing and appreciation. Yet it is also the busiest travel and shopping week of the year. That combination is rich in opportunities for anxiety, stress, and other unpopular feelings. So your NLP solution this week is the simple and effective Eye Movement Integration process. Created by
What stops you in life? If not a lack of actual physical resources, it’s usually negative emotions, usually fear. Learning to rapidly recognize when that is the case can save a lot of wasted time and effort solving non-existent problems. Here’s a story that will help you with this special kind of sensory awareness.
“Tom Hoobyar has left the building” A few years ago Tom Hoobyar was the regular writer of this newsletter. His stories and examples of using NLP in real life, not just in therapy sessions, were warmly received. Then his business took him in a different direction. His last official newsletter had that title. Now he has truly “left the building.” On September 25 after a very brief encounter with pancreatic cancer, Tom died. Tom was
New Stories: Excerpts from a new book by Mark Andreas Here are two stories selected from the just-released new book by Mark Andreas. The Plywood Artwork A Stunning Example of Rapport While these two examples are directly drawn from NLP people, this book covers a broader spectrum. Mark cast a wide net for these stories, and the qualifier was simply a unique and compelling story about a “creative and compassionate way out of conflict.” The
Meaning Reframing: Subtly Slipping in Change Want to learn to change the meaning of a situation and protect yourself with a technique known as Meaning Reframing? Meaning Reframing gives you a very simple and subtle way to create change for yourself and in others. And realizing when someone is ‘doing it to you’ can protect you from manipulation, whether in the personal sphere or in the public. For instance, the notion of ‘framing’ is gaining
Here is another short and sweet example of language at work from our co-founder, Steve Andreas. Instant (and lasting) Conversational Change by Steve Andreas A friend sent me a very interesting example of conversational change: In the biography of Janos Starker, world-renowned cellist — who has recorded more pieces than any other, and who was once called the “King of Cellists” and still teaching at 86 — there is a story concerning his habit of being