Skill Level Archives - Page 9 of 17

How Words Can Save Lives

This is a passionate and moving story of courage and the influence of language. It’s a clear example of the power of stepping into someone else’s world to communicate effectively. You’ll also note the power of the NLP model of pacing and leading as she used it. Her response was the opposite of the classic instructions in such situations. You are usually told to respond to conflict with placating words like “let’s all calm down

Tom Dotz December 1, 2011

The Sound of Fear, Pt II: Relief

Always popular, stress and anxiety are especially common here in the US during our approaching holiday season. The Thanksgiving holiday is intended to be a time of gratitude, of sharing and appreciation. Yet it is also the busiest travel and shopping week of the year. That combination is rich in opportunities for anxiety, stress, and other unpopular feelings. So your NLP solution this week is the simple and effective Eye Movement Integration process. Created by

Tom Dotz November 17, 2011

What Stops You: The Sound of Fear

What stops you in life? If not a lack of actual physical resources, it’s usually negative emotions, usually fear. Learning to rapidly recognize when that is the case can save a lot of wasted time and effort solving non-existent problems. Here’s a story that will help you with this special kind of sensory awareness.

Tom Dotz November 9, 2011

Tom Hoobyar has left the building

“Tom Hoobyar has left the building” A few years ago Tom Hoobyar was the regular writer of this newsletter. His stories and examples of using NLP in real life, not just in therapy sessions, were warmly received. Then his business took him in a different direction. His last official newsletter had that title. Now he has truly “left the building.” On September 25 after a very brief encounter with pancreatic cancer, Tom died. Tom was

Tom Dotz October 27, 2011

New Stories: Sweet Fruit From The Bitter Tree

New Stories: Excerpts from a new book by Mark Andreas Here are two stories selected from the just-released new book by Mark Andreas. The Plywood Artwork A Stunning Example of Rapport While these two examples are directly drawn from NLP people, this book covers a broader spectrum. Mark cast a wide net for these stories, and the qualifier was simply a unique and compelling story about a “creative and compassionate way out of conflict.” The

Tom Dotz October 26, 2011

Subtly Slipping in Change

Meaning Reframing: Subtly Slipping in Change Want to learn to change the meaning of a situation and protect yourself with a technique known as Meaning Reframing? Meaning Reframing gives you a very simple and subtle way to create change for yourself and in others. And realizing when someone is ‘doing it to you’ can protect you from manipulation, whether in the personal sphere or in the public. For instance, the notion of ‘framing’ is gaining

Tom Dotz October 12, 2011

Instant (and lasting) Conversational Change

Here is another short and sweet example of language at work from our co-founder, Steve Andreas. Instant (and lasting) Conversational Change by Steve Andreas A friend sent me a very interesting example of conversational change: In the biography of Janos Starker, world-renowned cellist — who has recorded more pieces than any other, and who was once called the “King of Cellists” and still teaching at 86 — there is a story concerning his habit of being

Tom Dotz September 22, 2011

Research in NLP: Update

Posted: 07 Sep 2011 01:36 PM PDT By: Steve Andreas I am often asked whether there is any “hard science” academic research that supports NLP. There is some good news, and some bad news. First the bad news… (If you don’t like bad news, feel free to skim or to skip this section.) Most of the research directly on NLP concepts was done in the 1980s and 1990s; little or no research has been done directly on NLP in

Tom Dotz September 8, 2011

The NLP 45 Minute Enlightenment Process

Because NLP is about having the change and transformation you want now, one of my favorite processes is Core Transformation. This is one of the most thorough and comprehensive NLP models for accomplishing major life changes. It’s been widely praised by the experts: “The way to a man and woman’s heart is through this book. CORE TRANSFORMATION will help you turn your limitations inside out, enabling you to experience yourself in a way you never dreamed

Tom Dotz August 12, 2011

Programming Yourself Now To Remember Later

This is a really useful and fun little NLP process for tickling your memory: remembering something exactly when you want to. Steve Andreas outlines the process here. He provides enough detail that you can start playing with it right now. And if you want the whole enchilada with details and more examples, it’s available at the link below as an MP3 download for just $5.00. Enjoy! Tom Dotz Often people sincerely make a change, but

Tom Dotz July 12, 2011