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New Stories: Sweet Fruit From The Bitter Tree

New Stories: Excerpts from a new book by Mark Andreas Here are two stories selected from the just-released new book by Mark Andreas. The Plywood Artwork A Stunning Example of Rapport While these two examples are directly drawn from NLP people, this book covers a broader spectrum. Mark cast a wide net for these stories, and the qualifier was simply a unique and compelling story about a “creative and compassionate way out of conflict.” The

Tom Dotz October 26, 2011

Subtly Slipping in Change

Meaning Reframing: Subtly Slipping in Change Want to learn to change the meaning of a situation and protect yourself with a technique known as Meaning Reframing? Meaning Reframing gives you a very simple and subtle way to create change for yourself and in others. And realizing when someone is ‘doing it to you’ can protect you from manipulation, whether in the personal sphere or in the public. For instance, the notion of ‘framing’ is gaining

Tom Dotz October 12, 2011

Contagious Behaviors

“Lie Down With Dogs, Get Up With Fleas” How our communities- of choice, birth, and chance – both form and inform us. Mom used to tell you to choose your friends wisely. Gurus advise their devotees to form “sanghas” or spiritual communities. Now science has put some very precise numbers and reasoning behind these aphorisms and advice. It’s been said in NLP for decades that with sufficient rapport you can get almost anyone to do

Tom Dotz August 25, 2011

A Fern Named Lazarus

I have an asparagus fern named Lazarus. Why did I name him Lazarus? I’ll tell you why. I named him Lazarus because when I first got him for my batchelor apartment I was sometimes a neglectful caretaker. I got the plant so there would be something alive in my apartment besides me. It came in a small green plastic pot about the size of a coffee mug and cost two dollars. It was a little

TomH November 3, 2010

Priorities, Relationships, Success: When Will You Be Home?

Priorities, Relationships, Success: This week’s story is an update of a favorite by Tom Hoobyar, “When Will You Be Home? Quick Announcement: Remember, you still have time to get to the ONLY real NLP Conference in the United States! And if you can’t make it in person, there’s a smokin’ deal on the complete audios. Click here for more: https://shop.nlpco.com/NLP-IASH-2008-Conference-Recordings-p/549c.htm NLP-IASH is the ONLY true Non-Profit NLP organization in the US and is worth supporting.

Tom Dotz October 19, 2010

Giving Thanks

Attitude is one of the key tenets of NLP. In this sweet story Steve Andreas tells how attitude and setting your perceptual filters can combine to sort your experience and your opportunities to bring you more of what is best for you. Enjoy! Tom Dotz Giving Thanks by Steve Andreas. 850 words, approximate reading time 3.7 minutes There is a story of an old farmer in the 1860s whose land lay along the western migration

Tom Dotz October 5, 2010

Words that Trap

Language patterns are one of the most constantly popular models in NLP. Here in a story from the book “Is There Life Before Death?” Steve Andreas describes in a very easy way the profound traps we create by our (mis)use of language in our everyday lives. And if you would like to search through some really clever patterns in depth we have a couple of the two most popular sources. For language pattern learning the

Tom Dotz September 8, 2010

Building Sidewalks

Steve recaptures a nice example of how we shape our reality not just with words, but with our behaviors. We create maps with words, and “kinesthetically” – in this example, by how we walk. And then, our creations shape our behaviors! Enjoy, Tom Dotz Building Sidewalks, by Steve Andreas 445 Words, 2.5 minutes reading time When a certain university was first built, all the grounds were planted with grass, without any sidewalks. After a

Tom Dotz August 25, 2010

Self-Description

Self-Description: Neuro-LINGUISTIC Programming is a lot about words: how they shape our perceptions, our relationships, our abilities, our beliefs and every aspect of our subjective experience. Here are two very concise and examples from Steve Andreas revealing how they can take part in shaping our self image. 602 Words, 3.5 minutes reading time Self-Description By Steve Andreas Often people don’t pay much attention to the words they use to describe themselves, and the consequences and

Tom Dotz August 18, 2010

Understanding Rapport: One Simple Thing

“To do NLP you need three things: An Outcome, Rapport, and a Ritual.” – John Grinder The fundamentals underlie everything. In our NLP trainings we spend a good deal of time on the essentials of rapport like matching, mirroring, and pacing in various modalities. Here’s an example of how a mismatch in just one submodality can be very costly. Steve Andreas relates how even a linguist can miss the significance of tonality and its affect

Tom Dotz August 11, 2010