One of my passions is sailing so among other things I volunteer as a member evaluator with my sailing club. Recently I needed to go sailing with a newer club member whose membership application I had approved about a year ago. It was one of the easiest approvals ever, as born and raised on boats, […]
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“It ain’t what you don’t know. It’s what you know that ain’t so.” -Yogi Berra A foundational principle in NLP is the importance of information gathering. Frequently simply getting accurate information is enough to cause a behavior change. In NLP one precise approach is called a “Double description”. Double description means exactly what it sounds
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Magical Metaphors Stories for Change Metaphors are one of the coolest and most flexible ways to use NLP. An NLP metaphor is simple a story with embedded NLP processes of suggestions for change. Metaphors or stories (like some of those you’ve read here) are a simple way to use NLP with others, in groups, and
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When NLP started practitioners usually only got to work with friends, college students, and really tough situations. Friends because they’re around, and tough challenges because the established practitioners, whatever the field, will usually only give up the ones they’ve given up on. Oh, and college students because they’re available, work cheap, and will follow almost
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Have you ever had that moment when you say something with very little purpose, just part of a story, and all of a sudden it hits you…a hidden limiting belief you have and when you got it? Something you had no idea you ever believed, you never consciously thought about it, but when you heard
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Have you ever gone to traditional therapy? I’m talking about a therapist that is trained in traditional behavior change, without and current or new modalities to pull from. When I was 15 I went through a rather difficult phase in life. Well, I should be more clear. My 15 was particularly difficult for my parents.
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The other day I was driving down the highway with my daughter and we passed a nice car with personalized plates. I don’t know what it is about personalized plates, but I always love to guess what they say. Some of the license plates are really creative! As we were coming up on this car
How many times have you wondered why you felt a certain way, why you reacted to something a certain way, or why you weren’t able to do what you thought you wanted to do? How much time have you spent searching for the answer to why? If you are like most of us, you have
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It’s that time of year again. The time of year when stores sell out of Vitamin C, doctor’s offices and Urgent Care waiting rooms are full of coughing people and sniffling kids, and call in rates at work skyrocket! That’s right…it’s cold and flu season. It seems everywhere I look someone is starting to feel
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My youngest daughter, Hannah, is 17 and has been working on finding her way in the world. She is busy being an entrepreneur and working hard to share her message that yes, one person can make a difference. She is also directionally challenged, so the whole experience of driving has been, shall we say, interesting?
Are you acting or reacting? (State Management through a teenager’s eyes) Read More »