Negotiating and Resolving Conflicts, Internal and External: Framing, Reframing, and the Six-Step Process You’ve heard of “framing” in the context of politics, marketing, and areas where influencing people is a primary concern. In any context, the party setting the frame has preempted the permissible dialogue. For instance, in the area of politics, the Republican party […]
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This article is about a special kind of practice that will give you more confidence in social situations because you’ll know that what you’re doing is better than what you used to do. Enjoy! Tom Dotz This article covers a simple technique that will work wonders for you. In fact, with this method, you can
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One of my passions is sailing so among other things I volunteer as a member evaluator with my sailing club. Recently I needed to go sailing with a newer club member whose membership application I had approved about a year ago. It was one of the easiest approvals ever, as born and raised on boats,
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Avoiding collapsing businesses and getting a better job? Making better investments in love and life? The Power of Four – How Four little questions can change your world – or the world of someone around you. “According to whom?” “What would happen if you did/didn’t? How, exactly,…? Who, specifically…? One of the essential language sections
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“It ain’t what you don’t know. It’s what you know that ain’t so.” -Yogi Berra A foundational principle in NLP is the importance of information gathering. Frequently simply getting accurate information is enough to cause a behavior change. In NLP one precise approach is called a “Double description”. Double description means exactly what it sounds
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I wondered about that NLP Presupposition for a long time. Finally, I thought of one place where it is really useful. That place is behaviors you wish to simply stop, without replacing. Procrastinating is a very powerful way to stop those habits, behaviors, or addictions that you’re already really tired of. After all, isn’t the
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Magical Metaphors Stories for Change Metaphors are one of the coolest and most flexible ways to use NLP. An NLP metaphor is simple a story with embedded NLP processes of suggestions for change. Metaphors or stories (like some of those you’ve read here) are a simple way to use NLP with others, in groups, and
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When NLP started practitioners usually only got to work with friends, college students, and really tough situations. Friends because they’re around, and tough challenges because the established practitioners, whatever the field, will usually only give up the ones they’ve given up on. Oh, and college students because they’re available, work cheap, and will follow almost
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I just read a great article “Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership” from the September 2008 issue of Harvard Business Review. It details fascinating new research by Daniel Goleman of “emotional intelligence” (EQ) fame. The emerging field of social neuroscience — the study of what happens in the brain while people interact — will be
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How to become a professional NLP Practitioner Thanks for your serious interest. I’m going to give you a straight answer, one my marketing folks won’t like. It’s practice that will make your skill, and skill that will make your practice. To achieve a skill level to succeed at practicing NLP as a profession takes
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