Atomic Habits or Big Life-Affirming Goals? Why not both? A couple of different approaches have proven effective in achieving goals, and motivation is essential to all of them. One approach is the Tiny Little Habits approach, popularized in the “Atomic Habits” book. This method involves adding one little tiny habit at a time. Over […]
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Negotiating and Resolving Conflicts, Internal and External: Framing, Reframing, and the Six-Step Process You’ve heard of “framing” in the context of politics, marketing, and areas where influencing people is a primary concern. In any context, the party setting the frame has preempted the permissible dialogue. For instance, in the area of politics, the Republican party
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Have you ever felt like, even though you understand and have practiced perceptual positions, sometimes they don’t make changes by themselves? Like sometimes you need something else, another bucket than the three standard positions? Perceptual positions are a core distinction in NLP, one that is used in multiple processes and techniques. Our perceptual positions guide
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“It ain’t what you don’t know. It’s what you know that ain’t so.” -Yogi Berra A foundational principle in NLP is the importance of information gathering. Frequently simply getting accurate information is enough to cause a behavior change. In NLP one precise approach is called a “Double description”. Double description means exactly what it sounds
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I wondered about that NLP Presupposition for a long time. Finally, I thought of one place where it is really useful. That place is behaviors you wish to simply stop, without replacing. Procrastinating is a very powerful way to stop those habits, behaviors, or addictions that you’re already really tired of. After all, isn’t the
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Magical Metaphors Stories for Change Metaphors are one of the coolest and most flexible ways to use NLP. An NLP metaphor is simple a story with embedded NLP processes of suggestions for change. Metaphors or stories (like some of those you’ve read here) are a simple way to use NLP with others, in groups, and
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When NLP started practitioners usually only got to work with friends, college students, and really tough situations. Friends because they’re around, and tough challenges because the established practitioners, whatever the field, will usually only give up the ones they’ve given up on. Oh, and college students because they’re available, work cheap, and will follow almost
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It’s happened to all of us. We have someone in our lives and we want to help them change. Maybe they want to quit smoking, make more money or improve an important relationship in their life. Whatever it is, the story is the same. They tell us they want to change, they have tried to
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I just read a great article “Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership” from the September 2008 issue of Harvard Business Review. It details fascinating new research by Daniel Goleman of “emotional intelligence” (EQ) fame. The emerging field of social neuroscience — the study of what happens in the brain while people interact — will be
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Have you ever had that moment when you say something with very little purpose, just part of a story, and all of a sudden it hits you…a hidden limiting belief you have and when you got it? Something you had no idea you ever believed, you never consciously thought about it, but when you heard
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