Have you ever felt an emotion come out of nowhere—a wave of anxiety, a flash of anger, or a moment of motivation—and wondered why it hit so hard? The answer might lie in how your brain represents that experience. It’s not just the thought itself, but how that thought shows up in your mind. That’s […]
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We’ve all heard it—“I don’t know.” It sounds honest, maybe even humble. But in most cases, it’s a cognitive dead-end. From an NLP perspective, this phrase often marks the boundary between conscious incompetence and learned helplessness—where curiosity stops and stuckness begins. So what’s the alternative? Ask this: “How would you find out?” It’s one of
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If you’ve ever watched someone do something brilliantly and thought, “How do they make it look so easy?” — you’re not alone. Whether it’s a leader who commands the room, a coach who inspires breakthroughs, or a parent who handles chaos with calm, there’s often a method behind their magic. In NLP, we call that
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Let’s bust a myth real quick. You don’t need to be a coach, therapist, or hypnotist to use NLP.You don’t need a certification.You don’t need to change careers.And no—you definitely don’t need to “fix” anyone. Because NLP isn’t just for the stage or the Zoom room. It’s for the dinner table.The boardroom.The moment you’re staring
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Atomic Habits or Big Life-Affirming Goals? Why not both? A couple of different approaches have proven effective in achieving goals, and motivation is essential to all of them. One approach is the Tiny Little Habits approach, popularized in the “Atomic Habits” book. This method involves adding one little tiny habit at a time. Over
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Negotiating and Resolving Conflicts, Internal and External: Framing, Reframing, and the Six-Step Process You’ve heard of “framing” in the context of politics, marketing, and areas where influencing people is a primary concern. In any context, the party setting the frame has preempted the permissible dialogue. For instance, in the area of politics, the Republican party
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Have you ever felt like, even though you understand and have practiced perceptual positions, sometimes they don’t make changes by themselves? Like sometimes you need something else, another bucket than the three standard positions? Perceptual positions are a core distinction in NLP, one that is used in multiple processes and techniques. Our perceptual positions guide
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“It ain’t what you don’t know. It’s what you know that ain’t so.” -Yogi Berra A foundational principle in NLP is the importance of information gathering. Frequently simply getting accurate information is enough to cause a behavior change. In NLP one precise approach is called a “Double description”. Double description means exactly what it sounds
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I wondered about that NLP Presupposition for a long time. Finally, I thought of one place where it is really useful. That place is behaviors you wish to simply stop, without replacing. Procrastinating is a very powerful way to stop those habits, behaviors, or addictions that you’re already really tired of. After all, isn’t the
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Magical Metaphors Stories for Change Metaphors are one of the coolest and most flexible ways to use NLP. An NLP metaphor is simple a story with embedded NLP processes of suggestions for change. Metaphors or stories (like some of those you’ve read here) are a simple way to use NLP with others, in groups, and
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