Have you ever felt an emotion come out of nowhere—a wave of anxiety, a flash of anger, or a moment of motivation—and wondered why it hit so hard? The answer might lie in how your brain represents that experience. It’s not just the thought itself, but how that thought shows up in your mind. That’s […]
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We’ve all heard it—“I don’t know.” It sounds honest, maybe even humble. But in most cases, it’s a cognitive dead-end. From an NLP perspective, this phrase often marks the boundary between conscious incompetence and learned helplessness—where curiosity stops and stuckness begins. So what’s the alternative? Ask this: “How would you find out?” It’s one of
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Let’s bust a myth real quick. You don’t need to be a coach, therapist, or hypnotist to use NLP.You don’t need a certification.You don’t need to change careers.And no—you definitely don’t need to “fix” anyone. Because NLP isn’t just for the stage or the Zoom room. It’s for the dinner table.The boardroom.The moment you’re staring
NLP Isn’t Just for Coaches: How to Use It at Home, at Work, and When Life Gets Messy Read More »
We all run our lives based on internal maps—mental models of how things work. Some maps are solid. Others? Outdated, inaccurate, or based on assumptions we haven’t checked in years. The problem isn’t just that our maps are incomplete—it’s that we don’t realize it. That gap between perception and reality? It’s where people get blindsided.
Why Sensory Acuity Might Be the Most Underrated Skill in NLP Read More »
Dear Friends, We all want an easy way out—whether it’s a quick fix for our health, a shortcut to success, or a hack to get through the hard stuff. It’s our human nature. Spoiler alert: the “easy out” doesn’t exist, especially when living a long and healthy life. In an article in the NY Times,
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Jeb Arcement taught science at a junior high school in Louisiana. The students at Jeb’s school were so tough that, in some years, the school lost a third of its teachers. Some new teachers didn’t even make it to Christmas. They’d get a new principal every 1-3 years. “It was a very toxic situation, to
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In today’s fast-paced world, it’s no wonder that many of us find ourselves feeling overwhelmed by the constant demands on our time and energy. Whether it’s the pressure of tight deadlines at work, the weight of financial responsibilities, or the never-ending list of family obligations, stress seems to be an unavoidable part of daily life.
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Atomic Habits or Big Life-Affirming Goals? Why not both? A couple of different approaches have proven effective in achieving goals, and motivation is essential to all of them. One approach is the Tiny Little Habits approach, popularized in the “Atomic Habits” book. This method involves adding one little tiny habit at a time. Over
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This article is about a special kind of practice that will give you more confidence in social situations because you’ll know that what you’re doing is better than what you used to do. Enjoy! Tom Dotz This article covers a simple technique that will work wonders for you. In fact, with this method, you can
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One of my passions is sailing so among other things I volunteer as a member evaluator with my sailing club. Recently I needed to go sailing with a newer club member whose membership application I had approved about a year ago. It was one of the easiest approvals ever, as born and raised on boats,
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