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A Pound Of Framing: The Power Of Language In Politics And Life

Years ago the then so-named anti-abortion movement seemed to be making little progress. Then they started re-branding themselves the “pro-life” movement. Well, if they were the pro-life movement, and you opposed them, what did that make you? Anti-life? Pro-Death? Take your pick; poor choices all. You’ll notice two important elements of framing in that example. First, re-framing their label took a lot of time and effort. The media didn’t change from calling them anti-abortionists to

Tom Dotz January 28, 2010

The Lies About How To Tell If A Person Is Lying To You

One of the great misunderstandings of NLP is the misuse of eye accessing cues to asses truthiness. In this essay Susan Stageman, one of our contributors and a long time NLP Trainer, explains it for you. If you missed it, last week’s video is fixed. You can catch it here: http://www.nlpco.com/library/nlp-video/anchoring-tb I’ll have more for you as the software permits… 😉 Cheers, and may the New Year be your best ever! Tom Dotz PS: You

Tom Dotz December 31, 2009

Cement Trucks and Miracles: Having More in Your Life

Sometimes people ask, “What is your Spirituality?” The one answer I am always sure about is gratitude. The miracle is that you and I are here. The odds against us were millions to one. The miracle is that we exist at all. Everything else is a bonus. This is our traditional season of giving and sharing. Yet economically it’s been a tough year for many people. So especially in times like these, I like to

Tom Dotz December 18, 2009

“Happy Hollandaise” – a Holiday Story from Tom Hoobyar

“Happy Hollandaise” Word count 924, average reading time 3.7 minutes There’s a lot to learn from what people say. And much of the time, it’s not what you might think. Here’s an interesting example that took place in our house last Christmas. Our two grown sons (my stepsons) and their families were visiting for the Holidays. My wife Vikki was going to make her famous Eggs Benedict for Christmas brunch. We all enjoy each other’s

Tom Dotz December 3, 2009

Choosing Your Triggers

A good friend of mine once said to me “No matter what, if a business isn’t meeting your goals in three years, drop it and move on to something else – no matter what!” Charlie Sheppard is one of the most consistently happy people I’ve ever known. He has the lovely family, loyal friends, beautiful home, the income and independence that almost anyone would envy. Charlie, an old time NLP’er and I had recently met.

Tom Dotz October 28, 2009

Doing The Impossible

Another enjoyable story from the “other Tom.” The NLP uses are much more subtle here, and I think you’re ready for them. 😉 Enjoy! Tom Dotz ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ “Impossible.” What a funny word. It’s a word that creates its own reality. “I can’t do that — it’s impossible!” Yeah, right. Let me tell you about some rat cages I saw in a research lab years ago. I was the founding CEO of a company that manufactured

Tom Dotz October 22, 2009

Turning Your NLP Skills Into Gold While Helping Others

You know what’s even more high impact than a motivated person working with focus and intensity? No, not a lot of them; they’d just get in each other’s way. Don’t you watch news? Or sports? Here’s what’s even more high impact – the same motivated person from the first sentence – WITH the added support of others. This is a secret known to some but actually experienced by very few. Tom Dotz and I are

Tom Dotz September 10, 2009

A Tip From An Old Friend

Hi I want to reintroduce you to the “other Tom” that writes occasionally for NLP Comprehensive. Tom’s an NLP Master Practitioner (from the days when I owned NLP California) and we’ve been friends for ages. He’s also the founder of the international NLP alumni study group, the NLP Cafe. He serves as our Planning Director and for a couple of years he wrote our weekly email newsletter. Then he got too busy with his other

Tom Dotz September 9, 2009

25 Year Phobia Followup

One of the favorite criticisms of NLP is that it’s just a “Quick Fix.” This is pretty amusing since it’s simply posing a false criterion: that to be valuable change must take some minimum period of time (Really? According to whom? How long would be long enough?So if it took one second less then it would be invalid? ;- ). The right question is simply “does it work?” This video solidly answers that question. If

Tom Dotz September 2, 2009

Motivation With NLP: Do It Yourself or Outsource?

I was standing in the lobby outside of one of the trainings here in the Colorado mountains last week chatting with an executive from Hilton Hotels. Like many people her acquaintance with NLP was based on an exposure to Tony Robbins. She commented several times that the main point Tony “taught” was to come back to his next program. “It’s a lot of pomp and circumstance and it’s very expensive and at the end of

Tom Dotz August 21, 2009