Oh it’s summertime, the living is easy, and I’m off to Winter Park for the trainings, wishing you were joining us. Since you aren’t, I have a couple of entertaining and thoughtful stories and metaphors for you. The next few are from the mind of Steve Andreas, and more specifically from his collection of stories “Is There Life Before Death?” Asking and Deserving “You don’t ask, you don’t get.” – Yiddish saying. This used to
Deciding to learn? Can’t quite get motivated? Strategies: The Commanding NLP Model A Story, a Video, a Process, and Announcements Three: This week in NLP! From the questions and comments I see around the web it’s evident that NLP is becoming known more and more as a bundle of “patterns” or “techniques,” mostly concerned with some aspect of self-improvement. That is a sadly limited view. These are simply applications of NLP, or as Grinder once
Which Lines Should You Cross? By Tom Hoobyar Article Word Count 1000, average reading time 4 minutes. Last week we talked about limits — the limits that each of us sets for ourselves on what we can want, and what we can do. I said we’d talk more about how to manage these limits inside ourselves. But first I want to tell you what the mechanism is that maintains these limits. After all, if you
“I liked the shaver so much, I bought the company” -Victor Kiam, Remington Electric Over the years many people have asked me what’s important about NLP training. What did I get out of it, how did I get involved in the first place? So let me tell you my story. It was a tough year. Within four months, a successful business I had spent five years building went under. My wife of 18 years left
Stopping by the office last Friday the phones were ringing and things were hopping. Unusual for a Friday afternoon, that’s for sure, but then interest has been up a lot lately. So I picked up a call and had a great (and to me classic) conversation with someone who, like you, is interested in how NLP could help them next. I say a classic call because it followed one of three standard paths. 1) There’s
Sometimes people ask, “What is your Spirituality?” The one answer I am always sure about is gratitude. The miracle is that you and I are here. The odds against us were millions to one. The miracle is that we exist at all. Everything else is a bonus. This is our traditional season of giving and sharing. Yet economically it’s been a tough year for many people. So especially in times like these, I like to
“Happy Hollandaise” Word count 924, average reading time 3.7 minutes There’s a lot to learn from what people say. And much of the time, it’s not what you might think. Here’s an interesting example that took place in our house last Christmas. Our two grown sons (my stepsons) and their families were visiting for the Holidays. My wife Vikki was going to make her famous Eggs Benedict for Christmas brunch. We all enjoy each other’s
Another enjoyable story from the “other Tom.” The NLP uses are much more subtle here, and I think you’re ready for them. 😉 Enjoy! Tom Dotz ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ “Impossible.” What a funny word. It’s a word that creates its own reality. “I can’t do that — it’s impossible!” Yeah, right. Let me tell you about some rat cages I saw in a research lab years ago. I was the founding CEO of a company that manufactured
In basketball there is a saying that you have to learn to play to your left to master the game. This refers to the fact that most people are right handed and find it easier and more natural to play to their preferred side. So for basketball players learning to have the flexibility to play to either side gives them a significant advantage. What’s true in a game isn’t necessarily true in life. A few
Magic and Mastery One of the biggest lies used in NLP is that anything can be done by anyone. It’s a useful lie properly understood, but few people take the time to get that understanding, and instead just fall in love with the magical thinking implied. It’s this love of magical thinking that leads us to a world where the competition is to make the most extreme offer for anything and everything for less time